Back with another post.
I decided to talk about what I've experienced lately now that I've lost my 30 kilos. I'm just gonna talk to you about the good and the bad things that I've experienced. It's also gonna be a bit of rant blog, so be warned I'm gonna sound angry in places.
I'm gonna talk about the bad stuff now please DON'T take this as discouragement I am in no way trying to discourage anyone to lose weight, please carry on with your journey I highly encourage it, this is just me and my experience. and bare in mind that it may or may not happen to you.
I haven't really experienced too many bad things. Only a few but now that I have lost all this weight I get told by friends and family that I don't need to lose anymore or not too much or I get told not to become anorexic. That bothers me because;
1. That is NOT what I am aiming for.
2. There is a big, BIG difference between looking fit healthy and slim as apposed to looking anorexic.
3. I am doing this the PROPER way NOT the unhealthy way. I am actually eating and I never skip meals I always eat. I actually go crazy if I skip a meal.
4. I do NOT have anorexia, anorexia is a mental illness and I do NOT suffer from any of the symptoms linked with anorexia.
here is an article of what anorexia is in case you don't know but it lists stuff that I don't really suffer from.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/anorexia/DS00606/DSECTION=symptoms
5. as much as I don't want to be obese I do NOT wanna look like a walking skeleton either I mean why do you think I want to gain muscle!
Sorry if I'm sounding angry, it just really bothers me when people think I want to look anorexic or they speculate that I have a problem or they think I don't know what I am doing when really everything is fine. I appreciate their concern but I really find it irritating because I mean I know exactly what I am doing, I've done my research on how to do this properly and safely and just when I do something properly I get the "oh I hope you weren't starving yourself" or the "You better be careful" I'm sorry but that really annoys me I mean did they ever worry about me when I was overweight, unhealthy and very unhappy I mean I've just made my life better and am decreasing my chances of becoming diabetic as well as keeping myself safe from other nasty diseases that come from being overweight as well as it being a gateway to a much longer life. Plus I feel so much better about myself as in my self esteem has improved plus I don't get as sick as I used to anymore like I caught the flu once this year but I got over the cold quickly WITHOUT going to the doctor for antibiotics. I mean yes I'm not 100% happy with the way my body looks so far but that does NOT mean I am anorexic. I AM happy with my body just not 100% but then again I don't want to weigh 40 kilos either and I am proud of my achievements. Had I have stayed overweight I would have had my life cut shorter because I was very depressed, got sick easily and felt really unhealthy. I really don't know where I would be now had I have not lost the weight. I thank god for where am now.
deep breath............
well that's one negative thing I've faced. But yeah when you get towards the end of your journey people who love you will worry about you. But whatever you do don't make that an excuse to discontinue your journey but always forgive people who tell you these things because it is understandable that they will worry, I mean yes it bothers me but I try to forgive them and move on. Now I know many of you will say they are jealous but that's not true they're not. They just don't have the right knowledge or they don't understand what a healthier weight looks like maybe. But yes people can get jealous although I haven't come across any jealous people but you know its just something you might face so be prepared for something like that to happen but don't let it ruin your plans or let it be an excuse to give up remember excuses are no good. I say keep going NO MATTER WHAT.
As far as other negative experiences well that's really it for me I mean I've watched people's weight loss journey videos on how they faced some problems in the end or towards the end of their journey, like I was watching this girl Nina aka beautifulbrownbabydoll's video on how you will face more problems after you lose weight, I'll show you the video.
She basically talks about how when you lose weight you will face more problems. Which can be true some people will face problems however a lot of the stuff she mentions in this video didn't really happen to me. Heck some of the good things that happened to her didn't happen to me. However this is mainly what she herself experienced. You might not share the same experience in my opinion, I think everyone is different when it comes to their own journey.
She says that she lost some friends as in friends who were not true friends. That didn't really happen to me. My weight loss hasn't hampered any friendships. I'm still friends with my old friends I haven't lost anyone because none of my friends are fake or were friends with me for their own vanity. So I must say I'm pretty lucky in that sense but what a shame it happens to some people.
She also says that you change as a person as in your way of thinking changes and you gain some confidence which as some people take as arrogance and will stop liking you.
That is true I have changed as in my self esteem has shot up but as for my confidence as in how I react with people, well that hasn't changed, I'm known to be very soft spoken and aloof and I am still like that. But really losing weight hasn't changed my personality much. I''ll admit I have become a bit vain but no I don't think I'm the most beautiful girl in the world or anything nor do I look in the mirror 24/7 but I don't know whether I'm vain or not, what I mean by that is I feel better about the way I look as in I find I look better than I did before. And no I don't think that the whole world evolves around me or anything. I'm not perfect but nor is anyone else. My self-esteem still isn't super duper high as losing weight hasn't really driven it above the peak. Even if I were 100% happy with my weight it wouldn't go above the peak either. all in all the only thing that's changed, is how I perceive my own beauty but as far as personality goes, my personality is still the same. I just feel better about the way I look.
As for whether people have stopped liking me well I got to be honest I am still treated the same by my friends. I don't know for sure how people truly feel about me. That's all I can say about that as I haven't noticed anyone turning their backs on me.
I'm now going to talk about how men treat me. This is a tough question because I'm not really around men a lot, so I don't know much about how men feel about me because I haven't been asked out on any dates. Because I go to collage and there is only women in my class and no guys my age. Had my class had any males my age maybe something would have happened I don't know. All in all I don't notice much of a difference in the way men treat me.
One thing though guys despite what I have mentioned and whats mentioned in that video. The type of people who turn away from you due to losing weight and stuff. I must say if you hang out with someone who gets jealous about these sort of things easily. those are the type of people in your life you need to get rid of. Remember its not you who is creating the problem it's them NOT you but in my opinion "friends" like that are always a problem whether you lose weight or not as in even before you lose weight they were always a problem. You Losing weight doesn't make that happen its THEM. You need to remember if someone tries to compete with you or become jealous or stop hanging out with you because you lost weight and they think your're this and that well that is their loss. You didn't create the problem they did. And isn't that a good thing? Because you do not want people like that in your life anyway and it helps to see who your real friends are, so please don't see it as your own problem you are on this journey for your own benefit not them and their own vanity. If this happens to you don't think of it as your own problem just move on with your life, you are not a selfish person, you are only doing whats best for yourself and its not arrogant to be proud of your accomplishments, or have confidence, remember that.
BTW I recommend you watch BeautifulBrownbabydoll's channel as she talks a lot about subjects like her weight loss journey and how to be confident etc she makes really great informative videos. she is also a specialist in psychology.
And yes losing weight isn't gonna make life perfect its true Nina is right about that. I'll admit my life still isn't perfect as in there is still other things in my life that I want improved and of course even though I've lost 31 kilos I'm still not happy with my body yet. This is life there will always be mountains to climb and I've only just reached the top of this mountain and there's more for me to climb, I'm not just talking about weight loss but other things in my life that have nothing to do with weight loss.
Now I'm gonna talk about the good things.
Well I feel so much more happier. I think I've spoken too much about the good things already but I just feel like I've lifted a burden off of my shoulders. When I was overweight it felt like I was lifting a burden. This is what you might feel like. Bare in mind everyone is different. All in all I feel fit and healthy.
And for the most part you will get heaps and heaps of compliments, people are gonna start saying that you've lost weight even people who you least expect to say anything will say something. People are gonna start talking even when your not there. They will talk. It can get pretty overwhelming. trust me that is bound to happen some people told me that they couldn't even recognize me. Its like transforming into looking like another person. Your wardrobe even starts to look like it belongs to someone else.
And that is it for this post. Sorry if some of it was negative but you just gotta know what your in for sometimes but hey you gotta keep going.
Stay strong in your journeys and don't let anything stop you .
Love
Alice
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